I think it comes down to choices. You can either take your experiences in life and use them to make things better, or you can use them to drag you down.
"If you build castles in the air your work need not be lost; that is where they should be.
Now, put the foundations under them.
History can be messy and painful, but it is not our destruction; if we are lucky it is our foundation.
You just have to work your way through the mess to find what matters; to find the pieces of your past you still want to carry with you.
And sometime, if you have just the right view and just the right castle, you can build the foundation for your new history... All by yourself."
It truly is an adventure! :)